I was 16 when I first realised my body was there for men to enjoy. It started innocently enough, the odd compliment from men, no harm there !
When I was 18 I decided to meet some friends, on the way a man (forcefully) stopped me and asked me out for coffee and started to follow me after I said no. I wasn’t offended, just scared so i went in a pub .. you know a public place, safety lesson number 1!
In that pub two men approcahed me and proceded to pull my top down and make comments about my breasts. I was outraged and didn’t know how to act. I did the only thing I could think of. I locked myself in the toilets and cried. I realised I was just a girl, a girls who body deserved to be looked at and touched by strange men without my consent. At least that’s how society sees it…
I told my Grandfather what had happened (we are close and he’s my hero). He told me that a woman shouldn’t go into a pub alone and that when he was younger he use to go with female Co workers to the pub in case that happened. That is something that stuck with me … “because you are a woman”. As if it should make a difference !
It angers me that girls/woman/females need safety lessons, like we’re asking to be attacked. I think men are the one who needs lessons in how to realise they have no power of or entitlment over females.
As (I hope) you are aware. Emma Watson gave a courageous and heart felt speech about feminism and equal rights.
In this speech, she talks about how the term feminism has gone hand in hand with men hating and has become an “ugly word”.
The New revolutionary movement called he for she is about making sure that woman’s right issues are to be everybodys concerns and fought for by all. It makes sense, we all share this earth as one after all. Any humanitarian issue is all of our issues to deal with.
I have always felt strongly about feminism and womans rights but never really felt a connection with any of the movements (yes all woman for example). But Emma’s speech does make complete sense. Equal rights is everybodys issue us woman and not alone in this battle anymore, it’s gone beyond woman’s right and is now about equal rights for any gender.
Please go to YouTube to view/listen to Emma’s moving talk. Who knows boys/men.. You might agree also.
Nobody knows what the future has in store for us. We can only dream about it. And that is scarily beautiful..
But what’s so wrong about living in the now. Forget about tomorrow. What do you want to do today?!
Ok, yes I’ve been “freaking” about my future.. What’s going to happen with my boyfriend? Will we get married/have kids? If so, when?
But I’ve came to a conclusion, I shouldn’t focus my future on a relationship, instead I should focus on other achievements. This year I went abroad for the first time, I overcame a big fear (planes) and achived one of my life goals! I sat out on the balcony in Turkey at 5:30 am and cried because for the first time I felt I was on the right path, I was exactly where I was supposed to be, my life seemed to make sense. I’ve never cried like that before, so open and honest.
This has boasted my confidence up so much. I feel that I can achieve and overcome anything if I truly want to. That said. I have been thinking about applying for an online Journalism course and have found one via London school of Journaliam. I will get a diplomia in a subject that appeals to me. What do you my amazing followers think. Need your opinions 🙂
From a photoshoot in Turkey
Today has been a difficuilt day. Work was stessful as always and i feel like i’ve barely had time to rest/relax/take it easy.
I may be 22, but I know who I am and what I want out of life. I have people in my life (that may not unserstand) who respect my lifesyle and the way I am.
When I was 16 i was drinking everyday. To this day I still don’t know why. Teenage rebillion? Boredom? To feel like an adult? To fit in? Depession?
When I was 18 i met a guy who saw through my bull. I got diganosed with depression. This was the day i knew i had to put myself first, for my mental health. I have been on/off medication to this day.
For the most part i do put myself first and I try not to over do it. But today … my mate asked me to go out friday night to drink with her. I love her. I want to have fun with her and support her lifestyle… i feel guilty everytime i say no.
I love drinking/having fun. I just do it in a different way now… i don’t drink to forget, to fit in, to pretend i’m ok when i’m not. I just enjoy the taste. Maybe i’m boring? Old before my time? Maybe I just love myself now or been in a relationship too long?
Thoughts pleasee xx
Now I’m not the kinda woman to want to be stuck at home and raise a family while my partner makes all the money. I thought I could do it all as I am a woman! But while reading my work terms and conditions I was surprised to see I’d only get 39 weeks of maternity pay! So before my baby was even a year old I’d be expected to be working my ass of for minimum wage while leaving my infant with a stranger! (I’m not pregnant!)
I know us girls have equal rights, but we can’t be expected to have a family (if we want) and hold down a job to pay for the bundle of joy, I don’t think all the ladies who burnt their bras so we could have these equal rights really though it through..!
It seems us girls can’t have it all, we can’t be a stay at home mum as that doesn’t put food on the table or pay the bills, but should we really only focus on making money? Isn’t being a mother the most rewarding of jobs? I guess it’s because of all the femals who have children as they are too lazy to work that ruins it for those of us wh0 do wan’t it all. Should working/single mothers get more right?…
I am getting so tierd of seeing girls dressing and acting like they have no respect for themselves, like they are advertising a whore house. I think confidence is sexy and think every girl should love who they are, but do they really need to walk around half-naked even in winter, the only thing you’re going to get from that is a cold or an STI!
Trust me, wearing nice fitting clothes that show off your curves and only a bit of skin = sexy and classy, wearing clothes that show of every bit of skin = desperate and insecure which is not attractive. I feel that mystery also attracts people to you and showing off all your body isn’t very mysterious now is it?
I am confident enough to wear clothes that hug my curvy figure but not show too much flesh and still feel and know I look good ! ….Just sayin’….